Karyl McBride

If an individual is able to love productively, he loves himself, too; if he can love only others, he cannot love at all.

The dependent cares about what he can do for you and the codependent cares about what you can do for him. Having no relationship is a kind of giving up, or choosing to not enter the dance at all.

In our society, a woman can fail at business or finances, but failures in relationships are less acceptable.