Lori Gottlieb

that change and loss travel together

I ask him calmly, my voice softer now, because I’m mindful of the fact that Very Angry People aren’t Very Approachable

Neuroscientists discovered that humans have brain cells called mirror neurons that cause them to mimic others, and when people are in a heightened state of emotion, a soothing voice can calm their nervous systems and help them stay present.

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings.

Both are you in that fraction of time, and neither is you in your entirety.

People don’t always remember events or conversations clearly, but they do remember with great accuracy how an experience made them feel.

Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.

The things we protest against the most are often the very things we need to look at.

In fact, Wendell continues, I’ve lost more than my relationship in the present. I’ve lost my relationship in the future. We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day

because therapy can’t help people who aren’t curious about themselves.