These men can seem like they’re saying, “The sky is falling!” because of their approach. They’re rehearsing everything that could possibly go wrong and could easily spiral downward into negative patterns of thinking. It’s easy for a woman to become a rescuer in this situation because she’s worried about his downward-spiraling, irrational thoughts.
In this case, his thoughts are being formed as he speaks. They haven’t been shaped over time. They’re impulsive ideas or even dreams that are expressed the moment they form in his head, and he might state them as though he’s committed to whatever he said. Be careful not to let him drag you down emotionally, and don’t immediately use logic to counter his arguments when he’s feeling that strong emotion. That type of approach focuses on issues instead of relationship and drives