Jenny Slate

he was demanding to be treated like a man who does know how to listen, while he was asking me to only listen to him

having to choose between bad and worse

“No, no, the problem is not you, it’s other worse men who do crimes and things like that,” even though it was him and it is probably all of us. All.

the man was already so strangely angry even though I was the one falling to pieces and everything he was saying was in favor of keeping himself together and also never changing.

In an effort to be helpful, I had revealed the terrible secret, and I guess it made the man feel so scared and defensive that all he could do was to appropriate my whole experience as his and then accuse me of starting the problem.

It is hard to even describe what it’s like to have someone use your own revelation of suffering as a way to accuse you of being cruel.

Look! Look at this woman who is both the emergency and the relief.