David Richo

unconditional “yes” to reality.

The task is not to disown the mindsets but to redirect their energies so they can serve us and others. Thus, fear can be mined for wise caution. Desire makes it possible to reach out. Judgment includes intelligent assessment. Control is necessary in most daily activities. Fantasy is the springboard to the imagination and creativity. When we find the useful kernel of these mindsets, the trespassers can become our bosom buddies.

From that position a unique meaning is allowed to ripen over time, in its own time. This is an alternative to the ego’s frenzy to impose a makeshift meaning from its lexicon of standard mindsets.

spiritual practice together deepens their bond at the level of the soul. Soul mates, after all, are those whose spiritual paths have met.

Effort is important, but so is grace, the assistance of forces beyond you.

Our ego searches for love, but we are meant to find love within ourselves first.

We access the gift dimension—grace—when we look with friendliness upon ourselves.

When we tolerate not having our needs met fully, fear turns to vulnerability and a more generous love awakens in us.

Then what we aren’t changing, we are choosing.

We don’t look directly at the problem because we are afraid to see its extent.

We keep it all in the family.

We ask others to deal with the problem for us.

We make an inroad but still don’t look directly at the situation.

We engage in a cover-up and take that to be sufficient.

We are afraid to know the real nature of our relationship to someone.