Bloomsbury Reader

The Duc de Richleau, Gregory Sallust and Roger Brook.

Here he became familiar with not only the people at the very top of the war effort, but also a young Commander Ian Fleming, who was later to write the James Bond novels.

So, accepting yourself does not mean that you must condone your tendency to put things off, or your timidity, or your obesity, or your bad temper. What it does mean is that no matter how much some of your behaviour needs changing, you will still accept and value yourself.

And when you do that, you’ll find that you’ll feel more powerful and confident, and that you’ll start feeling better equipped to begin changing those bits of your behaviour that you can alter and want to alter.

In fact, the interesting thing is that the more you accept yourself, the more you’ll feel justified in spending time and energy on improving yourself. Try to encourage this new view – and also encourage yourself to foster a belief that you’re just as special as anyone else and that you have the same rights as other people, and that you deserve happiness.

By contrast, do try to notice when you’re overly critical of yourself, and try to stop putting yourself down. When you are unnecessarily hard on yourself, you will not feel much liking or love for you. And your mood will get worse, not better.