Julie Smith

when dealing with mood it is essential to remember that it’s not all in your head. It’s also in your body state, your relationships, your past and present, your living conditions and lifestyle. It’s in everything you do and don’t do, in your diet and your thoughts, your movements and memories. How you feel is not simply a product of your brain.

When I am feeling this, what am I thinking about?
When I am feeling this, what state is my body in?
How was I looking after myself in the days or hours leading up to this feeling?
Is this an emotion or just physical discomfort from an unmet need?

It’s in everything you do and don’t do, in your diet and your thoughts, your movements and memories. How you feel is not simply a product of your brain.

Confidence is like a home that you build for yourself.
When you go somewhere new, you must build a new one.

Confident is not the same as comfortable.

The second you notice signs that you might be less than, you brand yourself as not enough.

Failure is never easy.
It stings every time.
We all want to be enough.
We all want to be acceptable and failure is a sign that maybe we weren’t enough this time.

Something that has helped me a lot is understanding that how other people respond to my failures does not provide an accurate assessment of my personality and worthiness as a human, but instead indicates how that person relates to failure.

You’re asked to speak in a meeting and your
heart starts pounding.
Your heart may be getting your body ready to be alert and perform.
But if you interpret that as fear and make your excuses to leave the room, then avoid those meetings in the future, you never get to experience talking in meetings and having it go well.

The things that give us immediate relief from our fear tend to feed that fear in the long term.
Every time we say no to something because of fear, we reconfirm our belief that it wasn’t safe or that we couldn’t handle it.
Every time we cut something out of our lives because of fear, life shrinks a little.

So our efforts to get rid of fear today mean that fear gets to take over our life choices in the long term.