Have you ever had this conversation with your spouse?
Wife: "Honey, we need to talk about us."
Husband: "Do we have to?"
Drs.
Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar
dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking
conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your
relationship doesn't bring you together, and it will eventually drive
you apart.
The reason for this is that underneath most couples'
fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman's
vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man's
subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why
so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging
wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can't happen
through words.
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don't require "trying to
turn a man into a woman." Rich in stories of couples who have turned
their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors
that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples
find love beyond words.
